For those of you who missed it last week, I have started reading this book and I thought it would be fun to use it as a topic for my posts. You aren’t behind, you can still catch up, so feel free to chime in even without having read it or read along with me!
Ok, so already, I am loving it. I actually love how genuine it feels. Jen, the author, writes from a perspective of being your best gal pal, just giving real life advice on how to get your life together (thanks Jen). She shares her stumbles and real life struggles (along with some hilarious thoughts), so it is very relatable. Ok, let’s get into it.
Right away, she talks about her personal journey. She touched on how her life was average, maybe even above average, but she kept yearning for the outstanding version of her life, because she knew that she deserved it. The thing she realized needed for the change was, as she puts it, needing to go from “wanting to change your life to deciding to change your life.” I mean this isn’t rocket science, but it is also something that resonates with me so much. Talking about wanting the most out of life and then keeping everything the same is where I feel the most comfortable, so deciding versus wanting is a must for me.
“Deciding means jumping in all the way, doing whatever it takes, and going after your dreams with the tenacity of a dateless cheerleader a week before prom night” – Jen Sincero
To get a grasp on this, she goes into the need of pushing past your fears, getting comfortable with being uncomfortable, and being willing to fail. It’s pretty crazy how one sentence can seem so intimidating right? That is literally every reason why I personally haven’t been able to push past so many things in my life and go for things I’ve really wanted, whether all of them, or a combination of some. Now that you are ready to close the book and move on, she adds that you have to move “past old, limiting beliefs and cling to your decision to create the life you desire like your life depends on it,” because the truth is, “your life does depend on it.” Ok, I see what she did there.. now I get why I need to do this, I have to, my future life is waiting.
“And the day came when the risk to remain tight in a bud was more painful than the risk it took to blossom.” – Anais Nin
Lucky for us she realized this well before us, so she is saving us from “beating pillows with bats, marrying ourselves, writing love letters to our uterus or spending way too much on private coaches.” I think some of those horror stories keep a lot of us from searching for help, because of, well the obvious, that seems insane. The best part is Jen knows this, so its her goal to be real, talk to us like we aren’t one step into the looney bin, and just give us a real life approach on how to push past our barriers to find whats waiting for us on the other side of fear.
That doesn’t mean to say that she won’t suggest some things that will push us, that might seem a little out there, but again, we have to decide to push through.
Lastly, she shares why it’s important to her that she shares her journey. “We need people to feel happy and fulfilled and loved so they don’t take their shit out on themselves and other people and the planet and our animal friends.” Once we start feeling fulfilled and focusing on ourselves, we will find less time to be worried about everyone else and all the things we’d change if we were the boss of the world.
Let’s “believe that we live in a world of limitless possibilities,” and take the first step to our new life.
Next week: Part 1: How You Got This Way