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I have continuously struggled with this over the years. I’d love to have a legitimate excuse why I’m always looking to tomorrow, but I don’t.

I think it’s great to be excited about a weekend coming up, time with friends, or a vacation on the horizon, but I’m really working on trying to create that vacation feeling for myself everyday (which is pretty much the premise of writing this blog).

When I got married, the best advice I ever got was from the owner of the farm where we got married, Doug. He came up to me right before my dad and I started to walk down the aisle and said, “take a moment when you start walking and breathe it all in. Look at all the people who love you, that are here to celebrate your love with Matthew. Look at the beauty of the farm and how handsome your future husband looks. Look at how beautiful the decorations are and remember how much joy you see/feel.” This moment, 5 years later, I can see perfectly, as if I’m looking through a window of the past. I was really “all there” at that moment.

I am trying really hard to try to find that similar moment each and every day. Yes, the dogs drive me nuts some days (because they are spoiled and bossy), but I am so thankful for their little noses, there jowls, and their different personalities. Yes, some days are incredibly average where nothing really is exciting or annoying, but I want to appreciate those days of blissfully doing nothing.

The list could go on, but the point is that no matter what is going on, I want to be all there. We all need to be all there because while the window of life on this earth is open, we should absorb the good out of every last minute.


  1. Julie O. says:

    1. It’s always so refreshing when people are real – thanks for sharing your story in “lessons learned”. It was written so well! As a stranger reading it, I felt like we could be friends:) I got so excited for you when you said you’ve been going to church and what a blessing it’s been – may God continue to grow and refresh you:)
    2. The chili beans and cornbread recipes look amazing! I will have to make them to help get us through the end of winter and spice up our regular menu!
    3. Great advice today! Best wishes as you “come back” to blogging. I’m planning to “be all there” following along from Indiana;)

    • paperyrain says:

      1. It honestly means more than you know that you commented and said such kind words, thank you! I am super excited about my journey, I have a long way to go, but it’s exciting/scary to think about it.
      2. The chili and cornbread is a life saver in the winter. Just be prepared, the combo is almost too good!
      3. Thank you and I am looking forward to hearing from you again!! xoxo

  2. Kelly Jo says:

    This is something I always have great intentions of working on but it can be so tough when you get caught up in the hustle and bustle of daily life. Really love that story about your wedding, great advice that Doug had!

    • paperyrain says:

      It really is hard. I literally have to consciously stop myself sometimes and say, you need to be thankful. I find myself complaining or being ungrateful, so I’m trying really hard to be more present and thankful.

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