This phrase has been a barometer of mine in relationships for sometime now. I try to ask myself: 1. Am I being a cheerleader for people in my life I care about? Am I supporting them in new endeavors, boosting them up during something difficult, or just reminding them for no reason at all, “You Got This.” (Waking up is enough reason to need a boost somedays, am I right?) 2. Am I surrounding myself with people who would do the same for me?
A while ago, I wrote a post about being a friend that is worthy of investment, inspired by a quote I saw that said, “Invest in People Who Invest in You.” This kind of relates back to that, where, making sure I am being an invested friend/wife/daughter/sister is so important (and easy to fudge up when life happens), but also not being scared to say, hey, I need some investment in return.
Something I’ve learned each time we have moved and have had to make new friends, is that it is really rare to find friends who want to celebrate you. Like genuinely celebrate your endeavors, your goals, your successes. I’m totally guilty of being that friend as well, getting consumed by someone else’s good fortune and making it about me versus saying, you rock! I’ve also learned that when you meet someone who is true, who boosts you up, and invests in your relationship, you hold on to that person for dear life and nurture that relationship because they are a needle in a haystack. Those friends, relatives, spouses are worth their weight in gold, because for me, there are days I wouldn’t make it through without them.
I’ve been thinking recently about how thankful I am for those “You Got This,” people in my life and how I could shift more energy back to them because they totally deserve it (and they get slighted by me more than I’m proud of). It’s easy to make friends, but it isn’t easy to make those kind of friends and they deserve a boost, they deserve my time even when I only have a little to spare.They deserve a reminder that they’ve got this.