October 31, 2014
Maybe this is on my mind because it is Halloween and I just want to eat my weight in candy, but I’ve been thinking about the importance placed on weight as a blogger.
My gal pal and I were chatting and she brought up a great point. If you are a size 24, you get an outpouring of support and feedback like “be you girl!,” or “be proud of who you are” (which is up lifting and I love it). If you are a size 2, you get an outpouring of support saying how beautiful and stunning you are (which again, is wonderful. I love support). For those that fall just outside of being a 6 and just under being a 20, it can be a tough ride (and for the record, I’m a 6, so this isn’t about bitterness, it’s about confusion). Why is there such a stigma on “medium-sized” girls? I seriously don’t understand it.
And for the record, telling a skinny girl that she looks so skinny, isn’t always a compliment. Some girls wish they could gain weight and they can’t. Telling a bigger girl that she “wears it well,” or some other crazy back-handed compliment probably gets old after a little bit.
I think it is especially hard for girls that fluctuate in weight. I can guarantee that if your weight is fluctuating or you’ve just flat put on a few pounds, you know that without someone telling you and it makes it amplified when someone takes it on themselves to point it out to you.
I totally understand that if you put yourself out there, on the internet, you lend yourself to opinions and unwarranted advice, that is just part of it, but I guess I didn’t realize how much focus put on weight until I started blogging and started meeting more bloggers who struggle with it.
The positive part of this for me is that I am way more aware of how I lend advice or share compliments. Everyone has their own struggles and just being supportive is so important, so I try to leave positive comments on different blogs regularly. You never know who needs a little reminder how special they are.
For everyone else, Meghan Trainor has it under control.